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One year as husband and wife

Time really must fly when you’re having fun: this Saturday makes one year that I said “I do” to my favourite German.

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I can hardly believe that it’s been one whole year since I legally committed myself to a lifetime of wurst and bier for breakfast, lederhosen in Oktober, and barrelling down the autobahn at ridiculous speeds! Oneika_Robert-0082

All cheesy stereotypes aside, not much has changed since I became a frau, though the number of people who ask me, “So what’s married life like?” has caused me to think that perhaps something should be different.

Then again, maybe I shouldn’t be surprised that my answer strays from the perceived norm; me and Liebling’s relationship has been anything but typical.

After all, we met on Halloween night, in Hong Kong, at an Oktoberfest party (see our “how we met story” here).

Then we fell in love, but lived on different continents– he was based in London, I was working in Hong Kong– for a total of 3.5 years, nurturing the most epically long-distance of long-distance relationships known to man. Oceans separated us even after we got engaged and subsequently married. Needless to say we spent a lo000t of money on plane tickets and Skype credit; see my tips for surviving long-distance relationships here.

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And then, when wedding planning started getting stressful, we ditched our initial idea of having an elaborate, 100+ guest event in Canada and instead semi-eloped in Berlin, getting married at a standesamt by a justice of the peace. We had a total of five guests, I ordered my dress online from David’s Bridal three weeks before, and due to a mix-up the whole 15-minute wedding ceremony was conducted in German (so if we’re being accurate I actually said “Ja, Ich will” instead of “I do”) which means my poor mom and aunty who flew all the way from North America on short notice couldn’t understand most of it. It also started pouring rain right as our wedding photographer was doing our pictures, which was devastating at the time. So while our wedding wasn’t the  wackiest or most unusual I’ve heard of (peep a few of these experiences, they’re already giving me ideas for our vow renewal!) it was definitely a bit unconventional, just like our relationship.

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And in fact, for most of this first year of marriage, we barely saw each other in person, though when we did meet up, we made sure it was fun (which in my lexicon, means travel-icious).  After our rainy honeymoon in Austria, we had a second honeymoon in Sri Lanka and the Maldives, spent Christmas in Canada and Chinese New Year in Costa Rica. Liebling got a new job which required him to relocate to New York City, so I also popped over to the Big Apple any time my generous teaching schedule would allow it. It was only last month that I chucked up my deuces to Hong Kong and moved to New York City for the foreseeable future to be with my darling Schnitzel.  Living together again has been an adjustment but I’ll be mushy and say that overall it has been bliss.  Because, for real, my husband is the bomb, y’all. Blessings abound in our household.

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And now, for our wedding anniversary, we will continue to do what we seem to do best, which is abscond to foreign lands. Next stop is the Caribbean– we’re jetting off to St. Lucia and Barbados for 10 days.

No matter how much we may travel, I feel like marriage is one of those ultimate journeys in life that tests your mettle. It is a test of patience, financial stability, and emotional endurance.  Aligning yourself with someone legally and spiritually is an education in itself– learning and understanding their personality, rhythm, wants, needs, and what they have to offer is not unlike navigating a new city or country whose pathways, hills, and valleys ache to be discovered. To extend my travel metaphor, getting married is like buying a plane ticket, but the real success lies in what you do and how you manage once get to your destination– or in this case, after all the frills and thrills of the wedding itself.

So let me be totally self-indulgent and raise an imaginary glass to toast myself because Liebling and I made it through one year of holy matrimony! Here’s hoping we have many more.

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25 Comments

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    Katrina Elisabet
    July 23, 2015 at 6:14 pm

    Congrats to you both! May you have many more wonderful years (and travels!) together!

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      Bellara
      July 26, 2015 at 6:09 am

      I was reading this post out loud to my hubby while he was packing our luggage. When I got to the part you mentioned “my husband is the bomb y’all “… I was like my is bomber girlfriend! My husband looked up and was like “honey, please don’t ever say that in public especially on a plane, train or anywhere else matter of fact”. It took me a sec to grasp what he meant lmao. Congratulations Oneika… Have a blissful, peaceful and fruitful married life! PS: You two look like the bomb… keep the posts coming!

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    Agness
    July 23, 2015 at 6:39 pm

    Congrats on your anniversary. Those who travel together, stay together :-). You look amazing in your wedding dress, by the way.

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    Paulett
    July 23, 2015 at 8:06 pm

    Congratulations! I do enjoy reading you blogs! Best wishes and many more happy anniversaries! !!

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    Kristine
    July 24, 2015 at 10:49 am

    Hi! I just read your post “How to survive long distance when you live on two different continents” and I really admire how you two make everything work. Me and my boyfriend for 6 years (High school sweethearts) are now taking a big step in our relationship by moving to two different continents for a indefinitely amount of time. We’ve been through this a couple of years back (5 months + 3 months), so we are sort of prepared. My question to you is based on how I experienced being away from my love for that long amount of time: how do you not get dragged down and drown in the whole “I miss him all the time” feeling? This was without doubt the hardest challenge for me, and I am afraid it will happen again. I am afraid I will not enjoy my stay as much as I could because missing him makes me really sad. Do you have any tips?

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    Chanel | Cultural Xplorer
    July 24, 2015 at 12:36 pm

    Happy 1 year anniversary Oneika and Liebling 😀

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    Emma
    July 24, 2015 at 11:12 pm

    Happy anniversary to you and your Schnitzel! (That will never get old.) Miss you, girl! xxx

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    Béatrice
    July 25, 2015 at 3:21 am

    Great post! Well said! Happy anniversary!😃💜

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    Reginia Cordell
    July 25, 2015 at 4:32 am

    Happy Anniversary! Wishing you and your beau the very best.

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    Shikha (whywasteannualleave)
    July 25, 2015 at 5:52 am

    I just came across this post and wanted to say a huge congratulations! What a delightful story you have both shared and frankly, I think your wedding sounds hugely refreshing and original! Ps, it rained on my wedding day too and whilst I can’t exactly say that I was hoping for that, the silver lining is that whenever I see those days of constant light drizzle, I remember my wedding day – and living in England, that’s not necessarily a bad thing! Happy anniversary!

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    I Say Oui
    July 25, 2015 at 10:11 pm

    How wonderful! Congrats from a reader!

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    Jen P
    July 26, 2015 at 1:33 pm

    I love this post, Oneika. You too are the bomb, girlfriend! And your ‘schnitzel’ knew it when he met you😉
    Just write a damn book so we all have more of your witty commentary to enjoy and experiences to live vicariously through. Please… cause manners matter!

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    Tabitha
    July 26, 2015 at 2:23 pm

    Happy Anniversary!! May you continue to be blessed in your relationship and happy travels.

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    Bellara
    July 26, 2015 at 5:48 pm

    CORRECTION: hen I got to the part you mentioned “my husband is the bomb y’all “… I was like my husband is bomber girlfriend!

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    Sprite
    July 26, 2015 at 7:45 pm

    What a lovely, inspiring story, thank you so much for sharing! Wishing you and your hubby many, many, many more years of travel, love and adventure!

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    Francesca @onegrloneworld
    July 27, 2015 at 1:15 am

    Congratulations on your one year anniversary! Your story is unconventional but so beautiful… I really admire your commitment to each other despite the distance! I’m loving all your St Lucia pics… Enjoy!

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    Chanelle
    July 29, 2015 at 10:27 am

    One of the things I love about your blog is your and Leibling’s love story, I’m total sucker for love stories especially when it involves travel.

    Congratulations and enjoy St.Lucia & Barbados!

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      Oneika
      July 31, 2015 at 12:43 pm

      Thank you!

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    Susan
    July 30, 2015 at 9:15 pm

    Congrats! You make a beautiful couple!

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      Oneika
      July 31, 2015 at 12:39 pm

      Thanks!

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    Colleen Brynn
    August 1, 2015 at 6:04 pm

    Such a great homage to your first year as a married couple and your relationship altogether! I’m floored at the distance you’ve faced successfully. I have done OODLES of long distance, and I know it is not easy, but with the right person it is actually ok and makes seeing each other so so much sweeter. Congrats. x

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      Oneika
      August 2, 2015 at 7:29 pm

      Thanks so much Colleen! It hasn’t always been easy but we persevered!

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    Mark
    November 27, 2015 at 5:17 am

    Congrats on your first year, and forever in the future.

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      Oneika
      December 7, 2015 at 3:06 pm

      Thanks so much Mark!

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